Arnette Adams, from Mary's Place calendar

Arnette Adams 1948–2019

Arnette Adams, from Mary's Place calendar
Arnette Adams, from Mary’s Place calendar

Arnette Adams was a great soul, widely loved and deeply missed. She stood with Women in Black many times in our early days; here are her powerful words about it, from Desiree Hellegers’ remarkable oral history, No Room of Her Own:

“When I came to [Mary’s Place} I had to get used to people leaving, cause a lot of people die, and I got used to that. It makes me feel proud standing for someone I knew, the ladies I saw pass away. I believe it will make them feel proud [that we] stand for them….Sometimes we pass out those flyers [that] will have [the deceased person’s] name on it, you know, and show the people: ‘You’re here today. Tomorrow you don’t know.’

“When I’m gone, I want people to smile and then have nothing bad to say about me. That’s what I want. That’s what’s driving me forward. My heart goes out to whoever died, and my heart goes out to everyone else, and people who stop because of concern.”

From Desiree Hellegers:

What an incredible soul Arnette was/is. She just radiated love. It was really an honor to work with her to record her life story for No Room of Her Own. Here’s one of my favorite passages from the interview:

“Sometimes I see somebody and see the presence of God, and when I see the Presence, I want to hug them, to get some of that. Street people, lovely people, all kind of people. Theres a lot of kind folks in the world, a lot of kind folks in the world. some of them need a person to start a conversation with them. its a blessing from the one who came from above. He needed somebody to use and he picked me and its a blessing. Sometimes on the bus I think about all the goodness he bestowed upon me and i thank God.”

You couldn’t help but believe in the essential goodness of the world when you were in Arnette’s presence.


Arnette Adams with friend

Featured Leaf January 2020


  • Max White

    Great book (No Room of Her Own) and a Great Spirit I felt I knew through Desiree’s book. I hope I am as graceful when my time comes.

  • loretta

    I’m sitting at work and like always I think of my momma everyday so I googled my mom name and leaves of remembrance came up and a beautiful picture of my mom I started crying I miss her like crazy .

    • Loretta

      Momma as I sit here the and think how days without you still don’t seem real.I really miss you so much. Ooooweeeee Nothing as been the same since you received your wings, It took part of me.

      I’ll always love my Momma
      Loretta, January, 1, 2022

  • your daughter Loretta

    today is July 15 2020 momma I miss you so much words can’t even explain I just sit at work and cry thinking about you when you left it broke me to pieces and its still hard to believe your not here but you left me with a strong presence of you I love and you momma until we meet again

  • Robin

    What a beautiful soul. I am glad that she can be memorialized and remembered for her grace and beautiful smile. So very sorry for your loss Loretta, I wish you well.

  • loretta pierce

    today 2/22/2021 there is never a day goes by that i don’t think of you mom.I love and miss you tremendously and somedays are harder than others.I keep close you close to my heart.And i feel yor remarkably presence around me all the time thats why the energy is so comforting knowing your my angel Loving my Momma forever From Your Oldest Daughter Loretta

  • Loretta


  • Daughter Loretta

    Two more days it’s your Birthday Momma I miss you so so much I have know one to talk to about anything Things haven’t been the same.

    • annette hill

      Ur mom was a beautiful lady with a lovely smile she watching over u stay strong ur memories will last u forever……Happy Heavenly day

  • Daughter Loretta

    3/10/21 Words can’t express what im feeling Two more days and it’s your Birtday Momma This will be my second Birthday without your Body precence.But I feel you Momma your beautiful smile words,wisdom,and strentgh and beauty keeps me going ooh weeee Your My Angel

  • Your Friend

    Arnette had a beautiful soul.She touched everyone she was around .I truly miss her smile.Just a wonderful person

  • Samantha Adams

    Happy late birthday! Miss Arnette was always the light of the room. Her loving personality would make you feel like you were on top of the world! She always made you smile and she accepted everyone. We may have not had as much time together as I would’ve liked but even a second in her presence was amazing and you will never forget her. She was a wonderful woman and I cherish the moments I have! We love and miss you ❤️

  • Loretta

    Momma as you know i got some family together and we released balloons for your 73rd birthday and had a little fish Frye sure would have been Beautiful to hold you and just to see you and give you a big big big HUG and tell you How Much I Miss My Momma Love you Always and Forever 00000000000WEEEEEEEEEE

  • Number one fan Loretta your daughter

    I love you momma it’s been almost Two Years still seems like yesterday ooooohweeeeeeee I miss you like crazy and there is not a day that goes by I don’t think of you XOXOXOXOXO always and forever

  • Loretta

    hey Momma just sitting here thinking about you like always this year made two years. Still hard to believe.this year instead of releasing balloons i was sitting in the hospital with a 200/70 blood presure thinking about you .Momma i miss you so much always and forever from your daughter Loretta

  • loretta

    hey momma sitting here spaced out I miss you so much its one of those days Im feeling alone I know there is no one like your mother I mean no one .As i sit here and reminice on your strenght and beauty keeps a smile on face and know i am your daughter love you momma

  • your daughter loretta


  • your Daughter

    momma it’s one of those days again. I miss your smile I miss talking with you everyday I feel your strong presence around me momma. It feels good know ing your with me. I Love you and miss you tremendously words can’t express how much i miss my best friend in the whole wide word MY AMAZING MOM

  • Loretta

    Momma i miss you so much.I wish i could talk to you and hug you See your smile I love you momma .Always and Forever I’ll always love my momma She’s my favorite girl..Missing you every day .

    Your Daughter Loretta ,

  • loretta pierce

    Dear Momma Just sitting here thinking about you like always. Your Birthday is coming up Wow momma you would have been 74 years young LOL there is not a day that goes by that i dont think of you I swear when you left you took part of me.I will lov eyou always and forever
    From your Daughter Loretta

  • Loretta your Daughter

    can’t believe were coming up on another year. And missing you all the time is all I do.Mom you were my best friend you loved me and i still feel your love . All around me. Mom I carry you with me every where I go your with me now ,Love Love Love you and miss you every single day April 26, it will be 3 years still can’t believe your not here I cherished the ground you walked on Momma and im always going to miss your beauty And strength

    From your Daughter
    Loretta Sending Hugs
    And Kisses All The Way To
    ” HEAVEN,

  • your Daughter

    Hey Momma Today makes three years that you received your wings you are truly missed down Here I love you so much

  • Loretta Pierce

    Hey Momma sending you a message to heaven I love and miss you so much Im still trying to hold it down.It’s been hard but im a surviver just like you were.Love you Always and forever.

  • loretta

    Sending loves and hugs all the way to Heaven I love and miss you so much your with everyday my gardian angel.XOXOXO

    Always and forever

  • loretta

    today makes 4yr Momma I miss you so much i feel you around me all the time And its not a day that goes by that bI don’t
    think of you

  • Liz McDaniel

    No one could light up a room like Arnette! She’d walk in and everyone would gravitate towards her. She had hugs, strong hugs!, for everyone! And her laugh made you feel her joy in a tangible way. So deeply grateful to have known her.

  • your daughter Loretta

    as i sit here thinking of you I love you forever and always Momma you are a special part of me Rest in paradice My Queen
    Know im always thinking of you

  • Loretta

    Momma the year is ending your oldest Daughter us about to be 60 years young in 4 days I miss you so much and your love for me and being your daughter I feel amazing Arnette Adams love you forever and always. .

  • loretta pierce (Daughter)

    As we approach another year of your birthday tomorrow, mom, I salute you I truly miss you with all my heart. I’m still trying to keep the family together. A few obstacles along the way but being your daughter I’m staying strong for you.

  • Daughter loretta

    Happy Heavenly Birthday my Queen .Love and miss you with all my heart and then some
    I’ll always lpve my momma she my favorite girl you only get one. Rest Eaey my queen,best friend

  • Loretta (Daughter)

    Happy Heavenly Birthday my Queen I love and miss you tremendously. Words can’t explain how I feel when you gained your wings. I wanted you much longer but God wanted you more. I know you’re up there with Grandma and your siblings and lots of friends. Enjoy your celebration in Heaven love love love love and miss you.

  • loretta

    I think of you every day momma your smile ,your unconditional love I miss your warm hugs I miss every thing about you

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